Chaos and The Cost of Not Trying

So I decided to clean out a closet. It was time.  I mean, it was two years overdue.  Three years.  Okay, eight. At any rate, I did it last week.  I threw out the clutter and made a useful space out of it, which made me happy on so many levels. In so doing, I...

Where The Answer Isn’t

Dear Pastor: I realized something this week that is going to change everything.  In fact, I'm a little sheepish that I hadn't realized it before. I am not going to find the answer to my problem at church. Now please don't misunderstand this.  I'm not saying that there are no answers at church.  I'm not...

I’ll Be Watching You

My daughter found out last night that someone has been watching her via a hidden camera. It's innocent enough - it was probably just an oversight. And yet. She was house-sitting for a family in the ritzy part of town.  She has been doing this on and off for a couple of years, every time...

We Should Talk

How I love those words. So maybe this is a female thing,  but I LOVE it when someone says that to me, even if I think the ensuing conversation is going to be negative and fraught with tension. Okay, so maybe it's just me and I'm weird. But still.  I would rather talk about stuff...

Pennies From… well, not heaven. Purgatory, maybe.

My friend and I have started a new game. Okay, it's not actually a game.  It's a survival technique.  Both of us are trying to navigate through, shall we say, challenging relationships with men who are in complete denial about their personality disorders. And both of us, for many reasons, are not willing to walk...

Desert Rose

So we quit therapy. I finally got to the point where I couldn't lay my heart bare week after week in session, receive a stammered apology and then be ignored for the rest of the week. So I called it quits.  I told the therapist and my husband that I was no longer willing to...