About

I’m over 40, female, average height and weight, not much standing out except my bright red hair, with three kids and a husband.  I taught English to homeschoolers, got an AA in journalism, am now finishing up a BA in English, like to travel and love to write. Can’t draw my way out of a paper bag.

I’m also a PK and moved around a lot as a kid, which is maybe why I like to travel.

I had great ideas about what adult life would look like.  I offered my services to God when I was 14 and was sure He was going to take me up on it (read: send me to the exotic places I had decided would be fun to evangelize).

He didn’t.  Or rather, He did, but in His way, which means I find myself living in a large American city, raising my own children and teaching other peoples’ children, but for financial and other reasons, not traveling much at all, and certainly not living the Glorious Life Of Full-Time Ministry For Gawwwddd (you have to say that last word in a very holy Southern kind of accent) I had expected to.

So it’s a bit disappointing.

(Do you see what I did there?  That’s what we English teachers call understatement.)

At any rate, being a PK and a fine upstanding member of a church, where a lot of people know me, I have learned to hold my tongue.  Because people don’t want to hear the truth.  That sounds harsh, so I mean it in the most non-harsh, loving way possible, but it is something I’ve noticed.

But the truth is, I need to say the truth.  I need to tell it.  It needs to come out sometimes. So I reasoned that if I put it HERE, I can get it out, but no one gets hurt.

(Read: Me.  I don’t get hurt.  No one gets mad at me.  It’s all about the not getting mad at me.)

Because the “kids and a husband” phrase is waaaayyyy more complicated than it seems at first glance.

One kid is a Type 1 diabetic.

The others struggle with learning disabilities.

And I’m that certain kind of crazy where I homeschooled them through high school.  I am happy to report that we have all survived and none of them are actually hermits who don’t know how to talk to people; to the contrary, people often comment on how well-spoken they are. I attribute this to them not being “socialized” into the false culture of the American high school, but instead into the real world that high schoolers have to figure out how to adapt to upon graduation.

(I get to be snarky about this because this is an anonymous blog but also, ask any homeschooler how many times they have been scolded about their children “not being socialized” – it’s a pet peeve we tend to have.  But I am not implying here that people who don’t homeschool are evil because that’s just stupid, and I become equally snarky when I hear anyone starting down that road).

And finally, my husband suffers from ADD, possibly has a toe on the Autism spectrum, has some kind of emotional disorder that prevents him from engaging emotionally in relationships, and after over 25 years of marriage, I finally figured out that he is a covert narcissist.  I was willing to go the distance with all this, until it became obvious that he was hurting the children as well as myself, so in Dec. of 2019 I asked him to move out.  Which, as you can imagine, has put me in a precarious position in the Christian community, and I had to step down from my ministry positions and walk away from my teaching and speaking jobs.  Because despite my forte as a communicator, I still can’t convince anyone that the kind, nice, Christian persona my husband works so hard at is a façade. I have learned to leave it at, “if you have never lived with a narcissist, you will just not get this, and it’s not my job to convince you – either you’re my friend or you’re not, and if this tweaks your theology, congratulations.  It tweaks mine too.”

With any luck, no one will ever trace this blog to me.  With any luck, this blog will not become the overnight sensation of my dreams but will continue to plod along in obscurity, so I won’t ever have to ‘fess up to the words I write on these pages.  With any luck, only my best friend and I will ever know that it’s me writing this.

With any luck, and the fact that I have flat out lied about some of the details in this About page.  ;D

 

 

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  1. I know one thing that is a lie — unless it is a typo? You said you asked your husband to move out in December of 2019. But we aren’t even there yet, and the first comment on here was posted in 2016.

    Anyway, I relate to a lot of this. I, too, was a P.K. I expected to be a missionary. I have three children, all grown now, and I home schooled them for a few years. I also have had a lot of experience living with narcissists.

    I like your “About” page. 😊

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    1. Gggaaaahhhh yes it’s a typo! I meant 2018. I updated the About page a couple of months ago. Obviously much too late at night. Thanks for catching that. Imma just leave it there so your comment makes sense 😁

      Also, I KNEW I liked you. Amazing how much we have in common. Your blog is one I always turn to, when I have time to read blogs! Keep ‘em coming!

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