Two Hands

I was praying today, frustrated because I see successful brilliant people in the news and wonder why I can’t be around more people like that - why instead am I a magnet to the needy and dependent and narcissistic? I could have been one of those brilliant people. I’ve wasted my life instead on people... Continue Reading →

Submission With A Brain

There was a sitcom in the 70s, a spinoff of "Barney Miller," in which Abe Vigoda played a crusty detective who became a foster parent to five street kids. It was called "Fish." I loved the show (I'm aware I just totally dated myself), but one brief scene has stuck in my memory and still... Continue Reading →

At Sea, In a Good Way

I got side-swiped in therapy again today.  Only this time, in a good way. The counselor picked up where we left off last time - where we were all left hanging, rather -- and asked me to say how it felt when he kept making everything be about me and my problems.  So she did... Continue Reading →

Surviving and Thriving

I've been reading a book recommended by a counselor: "Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed" by Wendy T. Behary.  It's really helping. Because while on the one hand, it's not telling me anything new - I know exactly what a narcissist is like; I just didn't know that was what it was... Continue Reading →

The Last Straw

It has been called to my attention, by someone with the degrees to speak to these things, that my husband is a narcissist. My first reaction was denial.  Surely this kind, gentle, loyal man who wouldn't hurt a fly, surely this absentminded professor, surely HE isn't a narcissist.  Everyone loves him.  He's so congenial.  He's... Continue Reading →

Just For The Record

I hate VagueBooking and cryptic posts. Having said that, I'm in the middle of correcting 9 essays on Macbeth and a stack of homework on John Milton, so I don't have time to give the complete story.  But something has been changing, slowly at first, but picking up speed, and today I came to a... Continue Reading →

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